First, a note to the few self-proclaimed alpha-Males who clicked into this post simply because they can’t wait to swing their dicks around in the comments, touting whatever “system” they use to bed as many women as possible. Here’s why: Second, this is written from a heterosexual perspective, but plenty should carry over between the orientations. Improve what’s going on between your ears every single day. There’s not a whole lot you can do about what’s going on in front of them.
You certainly don’t have to be a straight male to fall into the “out of my league” trap. Guys who fall into the “out of my league” trap have probably already told themselves this. And even though your heart and guts are located in other regions of your body, they’re controlled by that lump of mush behind your eyeballs.
If you didn't get a hot girl in high school (and most of us didn't), then you decided that you were a minor-league player when it came to women.
From then on you went for less-attractive women, you expected less-attractive women, and you got less-attractive women.
(I’ve tried.) Okay, so we’re going to take this premise at face value; let’s assume that this writer is a less than average looking dude, though it could be possible that this is more of a self esteem issue than anything else.
by Ron Louis & David Copeland You probably decided what league you were in during high school.
If you got a hot girl (by sheer chance, mostly), then you decided you were in the "hot chick" league, and that is what you went for, what you expected, and what you got from then on.
You put out a perceptible air of defeat before you even approach the situation. Recently, a contributor of ours, Pat Stedman, wrote about this in way more detail and way more eloquently than I can.
There is a phrase that I'm working on eliminating from my vocabulary, and it's one that we all use too frequently.