My friends don’t demand more time from each other than we have (willingly) to give. Empathetic Listening: Most guys don’t listen the way that women do.
It’s like they can’t empathize with what we’re talking about.
Japanese actress Maki Horikita married co-star Koji Yamamoto in 2015 after just a month of dating. Magazine last month compared hunting for a marriage partner with suicide.
In less than a day I was flooded with messages, profile views, compliments, and likes.
But it draws parallels with Japan’s now mostly defunct omiai arranged marriage tradition, in which parents suggested partners for their adult children.
Last time I hung out with my girlfriends, the talk turned to why we have a better time hanging out with each other than with the guys we’re dating. They want to live on their own, setting their own schedules with plenty of time to pursue their separate interests.
In recent weeks, people have posted stories to the aggregator website Matome Naver, telling how in one case, a colleague married their friend of 10 years.
The trend has been coined “Kousai zero Nichikon”: roughly translated as “marrying without dating”.