If you don’t make it an issue, chances are it won’t be.
If you really like her, just go with the flow and be yourself, regardless of whether “yourself” is a silly, dorky, immature 57-year old or a wise and mature 24.
Remember that men are most often widowed by catastrophic and sometimes long term illness in their partner, they often need those feelings of freshness to give them a kind of renewal.
Dating someone of your own age can appear to the man as making himself more vulnerable to the situation of having someone to care for without the depth of devotion that came to them in their first marriage over time. You are right in saying that the difference between ages when speaking of ages like 42 and 65 are not very significant.
However, you should not exclude the possibility of true love.
Be that as it may, you should know how to act around your father's young sweetheart. Of course, it is really weird when your father's new girlfriend is your age or even younger than you. A lot of issues will inevitably come up, but you will have to deal with them.
But see, for men who covet younger women, it’s not whether you look good for your age – it’s what age you really are. If she wants to date a guy who is 6’2”, makes 0,000 , likes skiing, is within ten miles of her house and five years of her age, you know what? All she has to do is go on Match.com, and wade through a few thousand applicants. There are many other things that are attractive about older men. They can afford nicer restaurants and vacations and have cultivated greater tastes in the arts.
Men who get past the initial impulse of wanting to replace or regain the wife that they have lost are put off by that because they are interested in enjoying relationships and the things in life that might have had to be foregone during years of childrearing and so forth. Younger women often make older men feel younger and they bring a freshness into relationships that might have been missing even in their marriage for many years.
Get over the initial shock and start thinking rationally. If you and your father are close, a serious adult conversation will help resolve at least some issues. Tell him that you are happy for him but still have some concerns.
Try to be calm and as tactful as possible and don't impose your opinions.
Okay, Evan, I agree mostly with your opinion on younger men/older women. I mean, I can see why an older man would want to date a younger woman – physically that is, but why would a 28-year-old woman want to date a man 45 or more? I can totally understand why older men go for younger women.
There’s no denying that they’re, for the most part, in better shape, with better skin, and less baggage from broken relationships.